Your wedding should be one of the happiest days of your life, and for most, it lives up to that promise.
But as anyone who has been married will tell you, it can also be one of the most stressful and time-consuming events you will ever be involved in.
In fact, wedding registry company Zola conducted a survey of 500 engaged and newlywed couples and found that wedding planning was stressful for 96% of them.
So whether you’re newly engaged or getting close to the big day, take a deep breath – here is a five tip guide to alleviate your wedding stress.
Setting and keeping to a budget
Setting a budget and sticking to it will go a long way in keeping stress levels at bay. According to the Zola survey, ‘budget’ was the top contributor to wedding planning stress.
While the average cost of a wedding in Australia is $65,000, whether your budget is $10,000, $60,000 or $100,000 – the first step is to decide on the figure.
The budget will impact on whether you hire a wedding planner, the style of reception you have, such as cocktail or sit-down dinner, how many guests are invited, decorations, the wedding dress, bridesmaids’ dresses and suits for the groom and groomsmen.
According to the blog ‘The Budget Savvy Bride’ the key to keeping your wedding budget on track is to use a comprehensive budget spreadsheet to note all of your expenses. It’s also important to factor in some ‘wriggle room’ in the instance that unexpected costs arise.
Choosing the right people
We’re not talking about finding the right fiancé – you’ve already ticked that box! It’s about choosing the best people for the wedding party.
Although, it’s your wedding – you’re not alone in the planning. When choosing the friends who will stand by your side at the altar, consider not only friendships, but whether they have good organisation and communication skills, and if they will be willing to help plan your special day.
Brides.com has shared the top 5 questions to ask yourself when choosing your wedding party and the answers to look for.
- How many bridesmaids/ groomsmen are my partner and I planning?
- Do we have the same number bridesmaids/ groomsmen? It’s not a huge problem if you have a different number, you’ll just need to be creative with your processional.
- Will we be friends forever? You want to choose the people in your life who mean the most to you. The friends who are like family.
- Are they wedding party material? As touched on before, being in the wedding party requires responsibility. If your friend has a busy personal/ work life and can’t make time to catch up for a monthly coffee, chances are slim that they will time to organise the bridal shower or help to plan. If she’s one of your closest friends and you can’t imagine her not being in the bridal party, offer her the less-involved tasks.
- Are they supportive of your wedding? You want a wedding party who are supportive of your relationship. If the people you’re considering aren’t fond of your partner – they’re probably not the best fit.
Taking care of the little guests
It’s a big question – are you inviting children to your wedding?
When deciding on whether to invite children, you may find yourself terrified by the unpredictability and chaotic nature of the little ones.
Other questions running through your head will no doubt be: will the children run amok during the ceremony, how do I keep them entertained throughout the reception and who will look after them?
While parents can take shifts acting as the ‘babysitter’, it’s less than ideal. They are your friends and family who you want to spend time with, and no doubt they want to share in the fun your wedding day.
Hiring professionals to look after the little ones, like Hessel Group’s mobile crèche, takes all the stress out of inviting children to your wedding.
Tailored packages mean no matter the size of your wedding, Hessel will ensure that there is the right number of people to manage the children.
The crèche is fully decked with equipment so the kids will be entertained for hours with a range of toys and craft activities.
Hessel also provides onsite babysitting services in Adelaide hotels and apartments, a service particularly helpful to families who have travelled from regional areas or interstate and don’t have family or friends to look after their children while they attend the wedding.
Alternatively, if children are invited to the wedding, the hotel and apartment babysitting services are ideal for those who want to continue the celebrations well into the night, when the crèche has concluded.
Children are cared for in the comfort of their family’s accommodation, meaning parents don’t need to stress about transporting their children from location to location.
On your invitations to guests with children, include information on the mobile crèche you have organised, as well as the babysitting services available – this will ensure a stress-free lead-up for these guests.
Have a relaxing morning
On the morning of your wedding, avoid frantically running around. A relaxing morning, where you aren’t organising final details, will go a long way in lowering your stress levels. Leave this to a coordinator, such as your venue’s manager or a trusted friend or family member.
To control your butterflies, go for a walk, or relax with meditation and yoga. Even though it’s the last thing you feel like doing, it’s important to eat breakfast! Excitement, adrenalin and a glass of bubbles won’t be enough to get you through the day.
Most importantly enjoy being pampered by your hair and makeup artists, and take time to relax with your wedding party and family. Even though it’s tradition for the bride to be late, allow extra time for hair, make-up, photographs and travel time.
Realise you can’t control… everything
According to Harpers Bazaar, the top stresses brides have on their wedding day are the first dance, closely followed by the weather. While grooms are kept up at night worrying about enduring an embarrassing best man’s speech.
To calm nerves about the dance, consider taking dance classes with your partner. The dance teacher will organise who the leader is and create the dance. But at the end of the day, if your partner steps on your foot or you miss a beat – it doesn’t matter. Just enjoy the moment and no doubt you will laugh about it for years to come.
To combat weather worries – have back-up strategies. If you’re hosting your wedding at a venue, such as a winery, the venue will have an alternative location inside if it is raining. You could also ask them to reserve stand-up fans if worried about a heat wave.
After that, avoid looking at the forecast every 45 seconds – it won’t change the weather!
Whether it’s rain, hail or sun, you’re marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and sharing the moment with the closest people in your life. Enjoy it!
To find out more about Hessel’s mobile crèche service, click here.